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A lonely job

11/27/2017

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Writing a book is pretty much a solo effort. Unless you're working with a team of researchers, I suppose. But this wasn't that kind of book. It's my personal story and my own perspective on the important issues of the day. So I've lived as an introvert much of the time, over the course of three years, to write it.

But when it comes time to promote a book, one has to transform into an extrovert. Get out there and talk to people, ask people on the phone to participate in events, speak in front of audiences (if you can swing it), and so on.

It's a huge effort, it seems, so I don't blame anyone who has been "writing a book" for years but somehow never gets around to finishing it or publishing it.  It's a real job!

So now I realize that I've thrown myself so totally into it, I've neglected my own social life, to an extent. Yes, I'm still attending certain events, parties, and other gatherings, but having spent so much time and money on bringing this book to fruition, I'm a little low on financial resources (not actually broke, but my reserves are definitely down!). So no more expensive weekend workshops and a lot fewer Meetups with entrance fees that add up. And a lot less volunteer work. Charity begins at home, they say, and right now, I'm due. Anyway, my book is a kind of volunteer work. I didn't write it just for my own ego or to make a lot of money. I wrote it because I saw people around me struggling these days so I wanted to give them something to help change their focus from what's disturbing to what's positive; from feeling despondent and hopeless to feeling positive and energized.

Anyway, now that winter is coming, I find myself at home a lot in the evenings, making my own dinners (for both financial and health reasons). Standing in the kitchen preparing, then sitting at the dining room table, eating alone.  (Occasionally my roommate, a graduate student, joins me, but often he's on campus working late, or upstairs on his computer.)

And no romantic partner for now. For over a year, I've been without anyone. Sleeping alone on one side of a queen sized bed. Wondering if I've somehow left no time for anyone in my life! How do I find a balance between promoting my book faithfully, and my personal life? After all, the clock is ticking! Once a book comes out, it's only "new" for about six months. After that, bookstores have moved on to newer books to promote, so opportunities for readings & signing events drops, and reviews online are harder to come by. So I have to soldier on, at least through the winter.

They say four hugs per day is an important part of "balanced emotional diet."  I think I'm running a deficit.
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A way forward? Let's get started, please.

11/24/2017

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I remember "women's consciousness raising groups" in the 1960s and 1970s during the second wave of feminism.  So, now I'm thinking about a different kind of group.
I'll call them "Mixed gender listening sessions" at the moment. Held in my living room, perhaps. Let's say about 6 to 8 people, an equal number of women and men, roughly speaking (gender not being so binary, but we'll try to have a diversity). One person at a time speaks, tells their story of how sexism has impacted them.
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Each person gets to talk while the others just listen without comments, suggestions, or questions.  You get about 10 minutes or so each.  Someone keeps track of time, so we all get a chance.  Then we join in a conversation to identify common ground among us all. We see where it goes. We keep it civil and we each report our own experience with minimal generalizing. We agree on confidentiality at the start and no touching of any kind without express permission. Something like that.

​So, ... what do you think?  Would you like to participate? You can message me privately via the "Contact Us" menu here on this web site. And thank you!
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Thanksgiving Day

11/23/2017

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On this day, I reflect on two things: One, all that I have that I am grateful for - my life, my health, my family, my friends, a safe place to live, food on the table, the lights that stay on, the running water, the warmth in winter. Two, all the tragic things my ancestors and the ancestors of others who came here from Europe did to take this land from those who lived here hundreds of years ago.
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I have begun to see this time of year in a new way. I grew up with cute pictures of turkeys and "settlers" stuck up on the classroom walls when I was a child. I didn't know any better than that. Now, I reflect on the great loss endured by the indigenous people who inhabited this continent hundreds of years ago, misnamed after a different continent (that being India). I am embarrassed that It has taken all this time for me to finally start to ask, what can I do to even begin to right this wrong? There are likely many options. My challenge is to find a balance between what might be needed and my capacity to contribute.  A balance between maintaining a day for expressions of gratitude for abundance, and a day (or a month) to atone for what was done.
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The many faces of publishing

10/29/2017

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Over the past few days, I realized why doing publicity for my book has been especially taxing.

While I was writing the book itself, I often skipped around between essays, poems, etc. If I got stuck writing the end of one essay, I could jump to one in a completely different part of the book and work on that. Or just take a break and come back to it later when I might have fresh ideas.

But publicity is a different animal altogether! It's linear, with deadlines, and research that sometimes turns out to be a dead end (such as the bookstore that turned me down for a reading after I spent considerable time, just trying to find the right person to talk to about booking events).

I have to write text for brochures and print them, all in time to take with me to a show. No skipping around - everything has to be prioritized, to make sure I don't work on something for an event that's well off into the future (but I happen to be inspired to prepare for it) and end up forgetting to do something for a  more immediate event until it's too late! After the deadline has passed, it's hard to keep myself from engaging in some serious self blame! At least regret, anyway.

All this has left me exhausted.The only antidote is to stop for a bit, take some notes, prepare some lists of things to do in a timely manner, and then rest up (if there's time for that!) before diving back in.

I always knew marketing would take almost as much work as writing, but I didn't anticipate how the nature of the work would make it even harder for me. Perhaps I'm just a touch ADD?  Hmmm... Now why would you ever say that?
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What's so hard?

10/24/2017

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With everything changing so fast these days, it seems as if I’m doing everything for the very first time.  It seems impossible to truly have experience anymore because once I seem to truly understand something, my understanding is only good for a limited time.  Soon enough, everything changes and I have to start anew.

Take book publishing for example.  Traditionally, a writer had to find an agent.  The agent took the writer’s manuscript, read it (or at least parts of it), and decided which publishing “houses” (companies) would most likely publish it.  Then, they would “shop it around” (submit it for possible acceptance) at various publishers.  The big names were Random House, Penguin, Simon & Schuster, Macmillan, HarperCollins and so forth, followed by hundreds of smaller firms.

If one of them agreed to publish the manuscript as a book, a contract was drawn up and the publishing company went ahead to publish the book.  They had a staff of editors, cover designers, artists, photographers, typography and layout people, print buyers (books are printed by printing companies contracted to publishing houses), distribution managers, and publicity agents.

Now, you can still do it all that way, of course. But chances are extremely slim for a first time author with no prior claim to fame. And just shopping around and working out a contract can take months or even years, even after the manuscript is “done.”  If a title happens to become a best seller, then the process can be sped up for subsequent books by that same author, since the publishing house now knows they are a good bet.

But for the rest of us (without a best seller track record) ... everything has now changed.  There are new technologies for designing and printing books, and clearly new technologies for publicizing books, or publicizing anything for that matter.  “I could write a book ...” about how to publish a book today, but let’s wait on that.  Especially because everything in this industry will probably change again soon, rendering my advice stale soon enough!

The key thing here is what happens when a book has been written, edited, designed (both the cover and the book “block” - the pages inside), assigned an ISBN number, and is finally available for sale.

If we go back to traditional publishing for a moment, big publishers talked to big newspapers and magazines, as well as established radio and TV stations to issue press releases, buy ads, and otherwise promote their books.  They might arrange for other well known people to read the book and then write a review, or pay to have the author travel around to promote the book in person, giving readings and signing copies at bookstores or in other venues.

Now, enter social media.  Exit big newspapers and even established magazines, radio and TV stations.  Sure many of those still exist, but their influence is waning in the face of the literally millions of web pages, blogs, podcasts, facebook posts, YouTube and Vimeo videos, and so on.

So, now it’s easier for the little guy, with limited finances, to get the word out about his book, right?  Uh, well, not exactly.  For example, when there were 3 TV networks, it was hard because very few people could get their message out on one (in the form of a news story or an ad). Before the internet, direct mail was expensive (printing, addressing, postage, etc.). Now there are millions of “channels” so millions of people can get their message out without getting approval from anyone? No problem, right?

Well actually, there is a new problem. Instead of a trickle or steady diet of conventional media, there is a now a gushing firehose, a literal flood of information! And each writer (or anyone promoting anything) is trying to get attention. We’re all like siblings in a huge family with lots of children, all vying for attention. “Pay attention to ME!” we are all crying. “Buy MY book!” “Read MY blog!” And there are literally millions of us.

So, here I am, feeling quite exhausted, and rather stressed out. That’s because it’s really hard to determine how to best spend my time and limited money to introduce people to my book. There is so much “noise” from everybody else out there, how can I be heard?  Oh, my friends are full of suggestions. The problem is, I’ve already thought of 90% of what they’re suggesting. And there are only 24 hours in a day. I can’t follow them all. I have to decide where to best spend my time.

And the clock is ticking. Why is it ticking? Well, because there are so many books being published today that bookstores are in a bind. On the one hand they are facing competition from online sales (can you say “Amazon?”) and on the other hand, they have limited shelf space. So, how do they stay in business and get people in the door? We all seem to have such short attention spans by now!

So they concentrate on what’s new. What’s just been published? If it’s last year’s book, let's forget it. We’ve moved on to newer titles.

So, here I am with a book copyright 2017 and it’s almost November. I have two more months to schedule readings in bookstores before it’s 2018 and my book becomes “last year’s title.” Next time, I think, I should publish in January. That way I’ll have the other 11 months to schedule public appearances!

But that’s not all I’ve learned. Bookstores, at least the ones that are still in business, are not uniform in their responses. Some of them are managed by very quirky people, as you might imagine. So sometimes I am welcomed, sometimes I’m rebuffed, and sometimes, I’m just ignored.

Most of them don’t have time to discuss my book over the phone. And I can’t just say “see my web site and call me back,” because they’ll probably never get around to it. Too much is going on at their end. So it falls on my shoulders to send them an Email, keep it sounding friendly and personal (not like a form letter), and follow up with each one in a few days to see if they are wiling to schedule me to do a reading.

It’s tedious, full of unexpected challenges (oh, the guy who schedules readings isn’t in today), often boring (writing the same kind of thing over and over in slightly different ways), and frustrating (oh, she didn’t get back to you yet? I’ll put you through to her voicemail).

In all this, I’m not trying to blame anyone, and I’m not saying this just to complain to strangers.  It’s all part of the learning curve. I’m not exactly re-inventing the wheel, but learning the hard way how much work and tenacity doing good publicity takes. And how many skills I have to bring to bear on it, including research, perception, writing, public speaking, event management, and so on.

Fortunately, everyone who has actually read my book, so far, has really liked it.  Back during the summer, while I was working with my editor to get it ready, I had a choice. I could either devote more effort to publicity (hey, everybody, I have a new book coming out soon!), or to hold back on that and really concentrate on the quality of the book itself. I chose the latter. Somewhere inside me, I knew that making my book high quality was job one. How did I know? Let's just say, "I felt like it."
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Am I crazy? ... OK, you don’t have to answer that.

10/24/2017

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Earlier this evening, my friend Melissa and I had dinner at La Victoria, a local taqueria. She had her six year old son with her and a supply of storybooks to read to him while we all ate, but we managed to get a few words between us, here and there.

I was lamenting about how much work it is to publicize a book these days. At one point she asked, "Do you have a blog?" Well, of course. I actually have four of them! The Product, Topic, Gender, and Good News blogs, each with their own purpose. So she asked whether I was writing any entries on what I was just talking about.  Well, I told her, I was using the Product blog to give updates about sales of the book and so forth.

Suddenly, it struck me.  All four of those blogs have things I want to say about what I think.  Points I want to make or events I want to announce to the world.  But none of them really had anything about how I feel, really.  The real me was missing, hidden.

After all this time, writing a book so openly personal, I had published the book, then disappeared behind a curtain formality.  What I was showing the world was PR from some kind of professional writer / publisher.

So, not wanting to throw anything away, I have kept those four blogs and have now added this fifth one.  This one is about me.  The “me” hiding behind all that promotional stuff.
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